Molino Man Charged With Using Chair To Attack Girlfriend
January 26, 2012
A Molino man is charged with felony battery after allegedly attacking his girlfriend with a wooden chair.
John Carl Nellums, 36, allegedly threw the chair across the kitchen of the Molino Road apartment he shares with his live-in girlfriend. The 45-year old victim told Escambia County Sheriff’s deputies that Nellums had been drinking all day Sunday and began arguing with her. She said he picked up a wooden dining room chair and threw it at her with all of his strength. Due to a previously broken and jagged edge on the chair, the victim said her thigh bled profusely after being hit by the chair. She was left with a deep tissue wound, according to a Sheriff’s Office report.
The victim said she was unable to get up off the floor for about 30 minutes. When she did get up to drive herself to the hospital, Nellums told her that if she did not let him go with her, he would “burn the house down”, according to an arrest report.
Nellums, who was previously convicted of aggravated battery in 1996 and pleaded no contest to another felony battery charge just five days before the incident, was booked into the Escambia County Jail without bond.
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18 Responses to “Molino Man Charged With Using Chair To Attack Girlfriend”
WOW…what a man. If they do it once they will do it again.
A lady came into the Flomaton hospital with domestic abuse injuries. She came in often.
The nurses were disgusted and discussed what they “would” do in such a situation. One mentioned wrapping him in a sheet after he fell asleep and beating him with a bat. Another pointed out water should be poured on the sheet to make it harder to get out of. Another pointed out that warm water wouldn’t awaken him too quickly. Another mentioned an aluminum bat would beat longer without breaking.
A few weeks later they heard a patient with that name was coming in. They wondered if he had finally managed to kill her this time.
It turned out, it wasn’t the lady but rather her loving husband. The police officer bringing him said it was the strangest thing he’d ever seen. The lady had wrapped the sleeping victim up in a sheet, poured warm water on him and hit several hundred home runs with an aluminum bat which was bent out of shape at the final inning.
Dottie wondered if they could be charged with conspiracy since they had planned it all out, not realizing the lady was conscious enough to hear them. Statute of limitations is long past now.
David for aluminum bats
To those that say leave:
I’m a survivor of domestic violence. I stayed in this marriage for 10 yrs until he started taking it out on my children. These men, and women these days, degrade you day after day until you no longer believe that you are worth anything. They pick women who have low esteem and they alienate them away from their family. I use the analogy that as when you train a dog to stay down off you you kick it down. After being kicked down for so long they learn to stay down. Victims of domestic violence are no different. The problem is you can talk till you’re blue in the face and tell the victim to get help but until they break the hold the batterer has on them and decide that they want a better life your words are just exactly that….words.
Family and friends quit helping me – but they only gave me a place to stay for awhile anyway – and a lot of advice like some here have that really have no clue. Everytime I left he would threaten family members, find where I was and do some pushing and shoving and scare them and me so I would go back.
Once I hid out for 1 year before he found me – learned a little self defense during that time. I ended up going back again because of his threats towards my kids but this time was different. When he started the knocking me around, I pulled a few self defense maneuvers on him – put him down twice. I weighed 90 lbs. and he weighed 175 lbs.
He did a lot of drinking, drugs, threatening, cussing, and demeaning me after that for the 1 1/2 I had to stay before I saved enough pennies to rent a uhaul. But he never struck me again. When he threatened, I would tell him to bring it on. He stalked me for 4 or 5 years after that but never came close to me again.
This all happened before they had a place domestic abuse victims could go and before the cops would do anything about it except say, “Now y’all just need to learn to get along, ya hear.”
All this happened 40 years ago – and I’ve started hyperventilating and shaking just writing this down.
I still have family that say they just can’t understand why I didn’t just leave him. Well, the only way anyone can understand is to walk in the shoes of a domestic abuse victim…..it’s not that easy.
Many people say Leave him. The problem is they have been abused for so long they start to believe the crap the abuser says. The abuser breaks you down until you have no idea what to do. I know because I was in the same postion until I was able to get help through therapy. The worst part is having to face the fact the person you love is an abuser. You think how did I get myself into this place.? It is a difficult road to go but in the end it is worth everything to get away from them. My prayers go out to this lady. I have walked in her shoes and NO ONE SHOULD JUDGE HER. That is left up to God.
Im sorry officer it was the alcohol…tired of hearing this…if you cant tolerate alcohol then don’t drink cause now look at what happened…good to hear shes ok to.
I pray this gentleman gets the help he needs to break this addiction before it breaks him! It’s sad to see the degradation of a human being because of drugs/alcohol.
Trish and Retired LEO:
I like what you both said. Both are true.
Those who read this, but are only, or mostly, living with verbal and psychological abuse: I believe it would be easier to leave physical abuse than to leave verbal abuse. But, verbal abuse is usually stuffed inside by the abused, who will usually blame themselves. This leads to chronic physical and psychological problems, that only God can “fix.” If allowed to go on and on for years, it surely takes a toll on ones health.
“The 45-year old victim told Escambia County Sheriff’s deputies that Nellums had been drinking all day Sunday”
You don’t say!
Trish, yes it is much easier said than done, however the next time a broken piece of a chair of what every is thrown toward her could just possibly pierce a vital organ and she would be dead.
As a retired LEO, I have seen this situation far more than I care to recount. There is always a way out for her if she is truly determined to escape this abuse. I think you know as well as I do that in the majority of DV cases, the abused refuses to press charges or later drops charges.
What I will say to the victim if she happens to read this, is to please get out while you still can. It is not going to get any better and evidenced by his previous arrests fro battery.
Ive lived in molino a while back and known this couple. I really feel bad for their child and can only hope and pray that he does not grow up to be like the father. No women deserves to be treated like that. And a child should not have to witness that kind of abuse period! My prayers go out to this family.
That is so well said Trish. I can certainly tell you have been there or seen
someone who was. The sad thing is they will tell her to take her children
and run and they think that is all that good citizens need to do. Where is
the help for another woman in distress? Who is willing to help her?
REALLY~
To Bratt Mom & Jane…………Certainly you have heard the saying “don’t criticize until you walk in their shoes”. It is not as easy to leave as it is to snap your fingers. Children, money, jobs, transportation, no friends, no supportive family or no family at all.
It is much easier to tell someone what to do with their life when you are not in the same situation and NO two situations are identicial. Yes there are shelters and there is some help but how far do those programs go to help?
Of course the safe thing to do is to leave but sometimes it just isn’t that easy. Some comments come across as blaming the woman because she stayed in the situation. So lets have a little compassion and pray that there is a workable solution for all families living this kind of home life. Instead of telling her to get a clue, give her a phone number for help. I am not talking about the kind of help that is just an automated information line but Help to actually help her get out of a bad situation and work towards a different life.
& they have children… This is sad.
Good grief lady LEAVE him and never look back !! Nothing worth being treated like a wild dog.
Get a clue women…don’t stay in an abusive relationship! Leave! Before you are really badly hurt or killed! If your husband, boyfriend has a bad temper and is abusive (either verbally or physically) GET OUT! You have to have respect for yourself.
And quit shacking up.
These types will eventually kill if they don’t get help. Sounds like he’s on a fast downward spiral. I hope the judge decides he needs professional help.